Single & Virgin in 20s ?
Hello there,
This post is pretty much self realization because of loneliness I feel everyday away from home. At times I wish like everyone out there, it would feel great having someone to come home to, now the real question is: at what cost ?
Our society evolved so quickly that there was not much time to really think through, so we were fed the idea of glamour, sex-appeal and a lot of perversion [thanks to movies for guided neuroplasticity]. It can't be denied most people keep the perversion to themselves because they are educated and know it is wrong to let it loose; some however can't do it; anyways that would be different thing to discuss altogether.
It has become a trend that someone having multiple intimate partners is deemed to be cool and respected. Ironically, for men the term is stud, for women it would be slut. Everyone wants to just score every now and then; people seek opportunities, some exploit the goldfish-theory.
Nowadays people boast sex and you'll be branded dweeb if you haven't scored one. Trust me you don't want to hang out with such people, they'll end up corrupting you. Almost 60% people trick their partners into sex by false claims & boasting high, which eventually fades off and the relation is called off; 1 point for the predator and a bad experience for the prey.
For my avid readers, I'd want to shed some light on what should really be our plan of action in 20s.
About sex, lets say you're dead single and virgin till 28; if you have really worked by then you'll be earning good, will have a quality of life. That is when the right people walk into your life. And all the years you have missed without sex can be covered up in only a year; in fact you can have sex twice a day with love of your life if that works out and trust me you won't regret not having sex up till 28.
[bwahahahaha]
By the way, if you think you're virgin so your partner must be too; then good luck finding one; not judging anyone, everyone has their personal preferences but its going to be excruciatingly difficult physically and mentally. Instead of wanting to become someone's first, think about becoming someone's last; that might give you inner peace and a sense of superiority over others.
Our society has put objectification of women into our brains to such an extent that instead of wanting to compliment each other, men nowadays want to own a women, a glamorous and sexy one like a trophy as a testament to their endeavors. This philosophy may get you a gorgeous woman, but will that woman every truly love you ?
Respect/Love is earned you can not buy it, people can fake it but sooner or later it is doomed to fade away. Forced marriages or marriages involving dowry brings two bodies together; it may not bind the souls; there will always be unevenness in relation in some or the other way. You can fuck each other but making love is rare, you can't have it for any materialistic possession.
I'm out there fishing in pond and I have offering as a bait; but the offering is very small. If I throw the needle into the pond now, then it is no surprise I'll end up getting a small fish. If I could just control my hunger a bit more and find me a bigger offering, even if some smaller fishes might get a few bites out of it, I will still get a bigger fish which will be logically more viable in longer run. The bigger the offering, the better the chances of getting a bigger fish.
No intention of objectifying women here; no smart woman would marry a dashing hunk who makes no money or has no stable career & no smart man would marry glamorous & sexy model if all she does is blow away wealth.
I have a lot of sexual fantasies which I will share with my wifey going to be [no idea who she might be]; and we're going to have it all together; and deep down I know it would pay off not falling prey to my desperation in my 20s because I would have found #pranavastic partner with whom I could share all of me and do all the things I've fantasized about. At this point I'm not sure if that would be a strategic alliance or just pure love; but all I know is I'll be honest, true to my word and my commitment will be to create a paradise for both of us.
Best,
Pranav
This post is pretty much self realization because of loneliness I feel everyday away from home. At times I wish like everyone out there, it would feel great having someone to come home to, now the real question is: at what cost ?
Our society evolved so quickly that there was not much time to really think through, so we were fed the idea of glamour, sex-appeal and a lot of perversion [thanks to movies for guided neuroplasticity]. It can't be denied most people keep the perversion to themselves because they are educated and know it is wrong to let it loose; some however can't do it; anyways that would be different thing to discuss altogether.
It has become a trend that someone having multiple intimate partners is deemed to be cool and respected. Ironically, for men the term is stud, for women it would be slut. Everyone wants to just score every now and then; people seek opportunities, some exploit the goldfish-theory.
Goldfish theory is: say in a fish-tank, say there are 5 female goldfish and you put 2 male goldfish in the tank named A & B; if any of female goldfish mates with male-A then rest of female goldfish will completely ignore male-B and go on to mate with male-A irrespective of any extraordinary qualities male-B may haveSome men exploit the goldfish theory by somehow tricking someone into sex or by going for prostitution and later boasting about the sexual experience they had and how they made the woman screaming from orgasms that broke the bed or how the woman complimented the size of their instruments blah blah.
Nowadays people boast sex and you'll be branded dweeb if you haven't scored one. Trust me you don't want to hang out with such people, they'll end up corrupting you. Almost 60% people trick their partners into sex by false claims & boasting high, which eventually fades off and the relation is called off; 1 point for the predator and a bad experience for the prey.
For my avid readers, I'd want to shed some light on what should really be our plan of action in 20s.
Trust me it doesn't matters if you're single & virgin in your 20sThis phase is golden or honeymoon period of your life; it is called so because you have the power to shape, reshape or transform your career and your stand in society. I'm a software engineer today, in next two years I can completely reject my career and opt a new one if I want to. These things you can not do when you step into 30s, you'll have responsibilities. It is thus very important for you to think about your future.
About sex, lets say you're dead single and virgin till 28; if you have really worked by then you'll be earning good, will have a quality of life. That is when the right people walk into your life. And all the years you have missed without sex can be covered up in only a year; in fact you can have sex twice a day with love of your life if that works out and trust me you won't regret not having sex up till 28.
The right people are those who share same philosophy as youI know it sucks being lonely, I'm living that life now; but all I know is I will not end up with a wrong person just because I was being desperate.
What is the most desperate thing you've done for food [I love food] ?How does it sounds ? Hilarious. Right ?
- I married.
[bwahahahaha]
By the way, if you think you're virgin so your partner must be too; then good luck finding one; not judging anyone, everyone has their personal preferences but its going to be excruciatingly difficult physically and mentally. Instead of wanting to become someone's first, think about becoming someone's last; that might give you inner peace and a sense of superiority over others.
Our society has put objectification of women into our brains to such an extent that instead of wanting to compliment each other, men nowadays want to own a women, a glamorous and sexy one like a trophy as a testament to their endeavors. This philosophy may get you a gorgeous woman, but will that woman every truly love you ?
Respect/Love is earned you can not buy it, people can fake it but sooner or later it is doomed to fade away. Forced marriages or marriages involving dowry brings two bodies together; it may not bind the souls; there will always be unevenness in relation in some or the other way. You can fuck each other but making love is rare, you can't have it for any materialistic possession.
Love is pure and devoid of materialistic influence even sex
One can still love someone even if they don't see them for the rest of their lifeIf we could just stop obsessing over sex, our lives would be much better. Today I was thinking about this. Something like this fits on me.
I'm out there fishing in pond and I have offering as a bait; but the offering is very small. If I throw the needle into the pond now, then it is no surprise I'll end up getting a small fish. If I could just control my hunger a bit more and find me a bigger offering, even if some smaller fishes might get a few bites out of it, I will still get a bigger fish which will be logically more viable in longer run. The bigger the offering, the better the chances of getting a bigger fish.
No intention of objectifying women here; no smart woman would marry a dashing hunk who makes no money or has no stable career & no smart man would marry glamorous & sexy model if all she does is blow away wealth.
I have a lot of sexual fantasies which I will share with my wifey going to be [no idea who she might be]; and we're going to have it all together; and deep down I know it would pay off not falling prey to my desperation in my 20s because I would have found #pranavastic partner with whom I could share all of me and do all the things I've fantasized about. At this point I'm not sure if that would be a strategic alliance or just pure love; but all I know is I'll be honest, true to my word and my commitment will be to create a paradise for both of us.
Sex is not like discovering and colonizing a new habitable planet like Earth that will keep you high for the rest of your life, it is a temporary heightened state of pleasureWork it till you make it; never fake yourself.
Trust, Commitment & Loyalty is rare; cherish itMy next post might be about feminine energy, let me know in comments if that is what you'd like to read about.
Best,
Pranav
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